Bi Means Two

Looking back, I doubted if my sex was female because I thought only boys could have a crush on girls and I wanted a way out of my female body due to misogyny. Sometimes I thought of yelling ‘I am a boy. That’s why I’m like this. Now, shut up.’

- I am legally changing my name to Azad, which means: free

It saddens me to see that bisexual people face discrimination because of their sexual orientation. We don’t choose who we love or who we’re sexually attracted to. It’s part of our nature, and others need to understand that and educate themselves so they don’t say silly things.

- I’m 95% attracted to men and 5% to butch women

Artistic circles – even though these professions may appear to be open-minded and tolerant – are in reality quite misogynistic and homophobic. So, as a woman, I was afraid that if I spoke openly about my bisexuality, I risked being excluded from the art scene and ostracised.

- As Pokémon fan I love seeing new Pokémon added all the time

I do not hide my attraction to women, and I don’t express interest in men. So people naturally assumed that means I am a lesbian. I had accepted and even used that term myself, and shortly after I realised I can be attracted to men.  I now regret using that word, even if I had no ill intentions.

- The animosity between bisexual and lesbian women breaks my heart

To some lesbians, we have always been ‘dick breathed’ disease-spreading tourists who cannot be trusted. Some gay men dismiss bisexual men as part-timers too frightened to come out properly. But bisexuality ought to have taught us how little such judgements matter.

- Bisexuals: get a spine and come out!

Once we reached equality, ordinary people hung up their boxing gloves and called it a day, which left the LGB movements in the hands of TQ activists.

- ‘Pride’ is poison for the rights of sexual minorities

If I would have been a man, things would have been so much easier for me in so many ways. That’s why I can understand how homosexual transsexuals in our society think. Sometimes vulnerabilities make people do stupid things.

- By Your Side

I am now a happy bisexual man. However, it took me a long time and two failed marriages before I found someone who straight away accepted me for who I am. There is a stigma to being a bisexual man. Gay men often think you are ‘sitting on the fence’ or ‘one day you will be fully gay’. And women think that you will cheat on them with a man.

- It only got better when I accepted who I am

The public might not fully support lesbians and gays, but at least the concept of gay and lesbian is well known. Bisexuality is not fully understood by society. Bringing in gender ideology has complicated this further. Every other weekend a new phrase or gender-related fad shows up; bisexuality, already far from the spotlight, gets pushed further out.

- Asian men don’t talk about emotions

Looking back on a happy life, I have some advice for young women: finish your education, negotiate hard for a good salary, invest, buy an apartment and become financially independent.

- Looking back on a happy bisexual life